Monday, October 20, 2014

A Core Dear

Dear our Chunny!
For parents their child you know
Must always be a honey.

No matter, you’re a person responsible
Can choose, do and decide
Can walk your unique way all along
But why do parents not stop their concern?!          

You may win a Nobel or two
May have all the power, name and fame
Earn a lot
But back home
You’re a dear child to them!

It’s not to think little of the person you’re
It’s a cordless cord of care
Started since the big bang ever
Or far, far before!

What they wish their child to be?
One among the bests
Hale and hearty
Free from strain, free from stain!
Does this feel like a chain?

They value the both
Presence here, your presence there as well
Near or far you are core to them all!


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Monday, September 8, 2014

Words About Oneself

What is my style and substance of life?  A trillion dollar question indeed!
            
            Out of various self expressions, ways of writing about oneself can also be many – an auto-biography, a diary, even a collection of letters or anecdotes. Some even like to shape it obliquely by auto-biographical stories, novels or even poems!

Why to write about oneself? For, isn't it an inherent urge in all to express? Hasn't this a major role to play in one’s self-fulfillment? Doesn't this reveal the diversity of life in the world? Again, do you do this utterly for you or for others also? As you are unique so also you are essentially they and they are essentially you; so isn't it difficult to go without sharing oneself anyway? After all we are living in an ever evolving world order which make us to express.


Now the immediate question is, can and should I express and expose anything and everything in my life? No, not possible, not even necessary. But this is also not a straight answer, issuing a license to excuse and escape oneself! You have to make a choice taking care of the context with a harmonious play of absolute and relative! You may have to even write a whole book to answer the question. 

Although we live in an ever evolving world order we all are not at the same level of its maturity. Therefore we care for others’ impression, others’ approach, others’ reaction, others’ behavior, others’ understanding in relation to our own life and accordingly we express or expose ourselves. It’s to remember that to carelessly express or expose oneself and to fearlessly express or expose oneself are distinctly two different things. Fearlessness as we know involves a different kind of responsibility. It values both – the action and the reaction, although a tough challenge!

Then of course there’s my intention which gives substance to what I am going to write about me. Why, how and what I intend to write when and where? How far am I true to myself and to others?

Happenings in one’s life can be explained in myriad ways. Mainly it depends on how the person from childhood has led his life and how basing on all experiences he perceives life and the world in particular and in general. Thus you make your own pattern. 

When you look back to your life, you find a number of turning points there. Had they been otherwise you would have become a different person altogether. You dreamt to be a person like that; but you have been quite something different now! Why such things like fictions happen in life? Is it due to the play of various forces in life at different levels, and how we are aware of and connected to them? If yes, then the forces, the awareness and the connection create a basis for numerous factors to refer to the results?  

In that case, can we imagine a person writing more than one autobiography? Is it possible? Is it impossible even if we don’t see someone so far? Why not autobiographies, if many biographies of the same person can be written from different angles? You looked into your life this way and wrote your 1st autobiography this way. If you can make yourself to look into your life that way you write your 2nd autobiography that way too!

Maybe those who are connected to their centers within and the same essential without can do impossible possible. Or else an incoherent split person can do the hilarious task of writing auto-biographies. Usually one can only write a comprehensive autobiography with at best chances of upgrading it further and/or a complete fiction taking cues and clues from turning points of life that could have been otherwise as you imagine.   

Life is there to explore life and lead, giving it a style and a substance! Amen!!   

Friday, August 15, 2014

That Way Of Giving A Name

It’s after all a name – one single name, of somebody or something, animate or inanimate.

What’s there so special in giving a child, a pet, a home you reside, an institution a name? Does this have any impact? Does this create any impression? Does this define something about someone or something? Is it capable of relating, remembering, or stimulating your imagination? Answers can be in affirmative and/or in negative.  

We can do without a name of a pet or our residence. But no human individual in the world is without a name! For, it’s basic to identify someone by a name. Our names help us to sign, register, attest, certify, clarify and prove a point. Pragmatically, name assumes significance at least for us humans.  

An adult may not have much to do with his or her name; but a child, a growing personality, has. It contributes a lot in shaping their self esteem, self-faith. They don’t want to be bullied or ridiculed among peers by their names given by parents! Meaningful names make them feel proud. And, interestingly, we see adults changing their names for various reasons! Thus names and for that matter name-giving do have major roles to play.

The name-giving tradition both in lesser and major cultures of India is as old as its civilization itself. It’s indeed a festival like special occasion involving people to observe with a lot of family and community rituals and with a deep feeling of belongingness. Name-giving ceremonies and celebrations vary from culture to culture and time to time. Also, we see how contemporary name trends and patterns evolve depicting generational gaps. Like inter-cultural, now even global relations determine name and name-giving trends and patterns. A purely Indian baby today may have a Chinese or French name and vice versa!

Priests, respectable persons of the family, close relatives and friends, teachers, community or organizational heads are generally entrusted to give name to a child, a pet or an institution. The name is accepted by all the concerned.

When entrusted to give a name how would you think and feel about it? You must take note of various conditions like time, culture, people concerned, necessity, future implication, heredity and other contexts before proposing a name. But in many cases the assignee’s emotion and complacency rule the roost. 

Whatever the name, name giving is well settled when the rightful or any hierarchy takes charge of the activity. Gladly or willy-nilly, others have to accept. The authority of parents to name their child is obvious. When the highest authority in politics, industry or bureaucracy name an institution, that gets final. Sometimes people without any portfolio are also asked for to give a name, may be for the sake of inclusiveness, acceptability, equality or some other good reasons.  

It’s when more people are engaged to propose a name the task gets tougher! Every single person with many ideas, emotions and expectations comes with a name to propose and get accepted. Here, all those involved in the whole process must have to reach at a consensus to opt a name by priority and broad-based context. Otherwise, take resort to voting.    
  
            Those who nurture an emotion to name someone or something and wish to be accepted among others they, instead of a single name, prepare a list of them and propose. Here’s a more possibility of getting accepted than rejected. It can be more interesting if you are the only proposer. Because, you with a name list give the party a chance to make their own choice! You involve the party in the process and make them feel they have also given the name.

            Ultimately, who has given the name? Ah, how wonderful!

Sometimes so happens, the party concerned may stumble at more than one out of the list and again seek your advice. You finally give one to settle the matter. Thus name giving becomes an activity of mutual love and respect – isn’t it a ceremony and celebration?